Keep your Shirt!

Posted October 3, 2009 by ideaing
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More random career advice:

To minimize your dry cleaning bill, wear shirts with sleeves underneath jackets and sweaters. Men have been saving their dress shirts forever with undershirts, but of COURSE women’s undershirts usually are camisoles and have no armpit protection.

I’m a big fan of J. Crew’s Perfect Tees, two of which I got on clearance (in seafoam and navy) for $6.99 each a couple of weeks ago. Score!

Random, sure…but I wish someone had given me this advice instead of me figuring it out myself, hundreds of dollars of cleaning bills later! My mother saying “Why do you buy dry clean only clothes??? That’s so stupid!” doesn’t really count.

Don’t let your worlds collide!

Posted September 28, 2009 by ideaing
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Strangely enough, my single most popular post on this blog has been career-oriented, and has about half of my site’s lifetime hits.

This brings me to today’s very straightforward topic…

SOCIAL NETWORKS!

Keep them separate.

That’s about it.

Long story short: I’ve had Facebook since 2004, added my boss and some other higher-ups a while after I got my salaried position, and then unfriended them six months later.

Why? Because there’s absolutely no need for me to be “friends” with them on a social site.

First, and most importantly, being Facebook friends with my boss forced me to continually worry about what I put on my site. If I was annoyed with work, I couldn’t put it in my status. If I friended one co-worker, I probably had to friend them all. Even how I described my job may or may not be eyebrow-raising to a superior. So, why worry about it at all? Delete!

Second of all, I see my coworkers at least five days a week, and usually more often. What the hell do we need to be cyberfriends for?

THE PRESCRIPTION: We now have work-based networks like LinkedIn. Keep different accounts for your “social” social networks and “work” social networks, so you don’t need to continually worry about which privacy settings are for whom, or, worse, you DON’T worry about it and end up making a major CLM (career-limiting move).

In the end, if you’re that obsessed with Facebook friending your boss, you’re probably not mature or socially savvy enough to move up the corporate ladder, anyway.

Some financial penalties make so little sense it’s ALMOST hilarious

Posted September 26, 2009 by ideaing
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This one time…

1. I overdrafted my checking account on $3.50 at Taco Bell and was hit with a $32 fee from BofA. That’s right, a taco and a burrito cost me $35. Thanks, Bank.

2. I got a $20 ticket for driving Nick’s car with expired registration. At the time, I had already paid $1300 to renew his registration, but we were in arbitration with Fastrak, which claimed we owed them another $2000 in missed tolls (uh, no). By the time this dispute was resolved — in our favor — five months had elapsed, which meant the deadline for fixing the registration was lapsed. This meant my $20 ticket went up to $3000, with expected monthly payments of $400. I can’t afford these payments. If I don’t make them, my license will get revoked. If my license gets revoked, I can’t get to work (legally). If I can’t get to work, I lose my job. If I lose my job, I have even less money.

To sum up this Kafka-esque Catch-22: if you have slightly too little money, you get slapped with a 1000% increase in your fee, and if you now can’t pay that fee, you lose your ability to keep your job, which means…how does the state get its money now?????

Doesn’t make too much sense, eh? If, at the end of the day, the state wants to penalize irresponsibility, fine, I’m down with that. However, if the reason why someone can’t pay something is because she doesn’t have the money, how does it make any sense to up the cost 1000%?

In a similar note:
1. Bob spends too much on his credit card
2. Bob tries to pay it off
3. Bob runs a balance each month
4. Bob loses his job and can pay less on his balance each month
5. Because Bob is keeping a higher balance, his credit score goes down
5. Because Bob’s credit score decreases, his interest rate INCREASES
6. Bob’s balance increases MORE
7. Lather, rinse, repeat.

I have a full-time, salaried job (40-65 hours/week) with benefits and am the best in the state within my company. I have now taken on a second job to supplement this salary. All I know is that I spend less than 15% of my income on eating out, clothes, toiletries, whatever — that leaves 85% for debts, rent, food, utilities, and gas. If I can’t make it, how the hell could anyone else who has a modicum of debt?
At the end of the day, the poorest 10% in America pay 90% of America’s overdraft fees.  (True, not hyperbole.)  Fuck you, banks!

Seafood Week at the Estate

Posted September 17, 2009 by ideaing
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Monday: Oyster, Potato, and Leek Chowder

Tuesday: Calamari in a garlic white wine sauce with roasted red pepper on lemon-pepper papardelle

Thursday: Steamed mussels with chardonnay, tomatoes, and garlic

Saturday: New England Clam Chowder

YAYYYYYYYYYYYY 99 Ranch’s frozen seafood selection!!!

Brief, General News Analysis

Posted September 16, 2009 by ideaing
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As you’ve probably heard by now, a female grad student at Yale disappeared last week and was found dead a couple of days ago. Today the medical examiner announced the cause of death was asphyxiation.

This story is freaky as hell and very sad. It also makes the perfect news story, but I’m not so cynical as to waste time today reminding us all why this disappearance and murder were considered so much more “newsworthy” than the dozens that occur each day in this country.

What I do what to comment on is this article:

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/17/nyregion/17yale.html?_r=1&hp

Although the police have not charged anyone with a crime yet, and claim to have multiple persons of interest they need to talk to still, this fairly lengthy-for-a-news-update article makes clear that the reporter thinks Raymond Clark III, a lab tech, killed Ms. Le. It spends multiple paragraphs dissecting him and the so-far-barely-circumstansial evidence that damns him.  They even published an ominous picture of the stairs up to his apartment!

For all I know, this guy totally did it. That said, he hasn’t even been charged yet, so although I understand the reporter wants to scoop this story, I often wonder what happens to all those who are accused in the media but actually didn’t commit a crime.

Think about it: let’s say this guy had nothing to do with Ms. Le’s murder. However, he’s now all over the national and international news, as well as the internet, as a suspected brutal killer. Moreover, again, thanks to the internet, even if the New York Times fixates on a new loner guy tomorrow, if you google Mr. Carver for the next few years (at LEAST), he’s still going to look like a murderer.

The American judicial system has the philosophy of “innocent until proven guilty,” but the media often spins things the other way around.  Even if Mr. Carver never faces any legal repercussions, in the last four hours, his life has already changed irrevocably, and his reputation is ruined.  I feel weird saying this, but I hope he’s actually the murderer — if not, we just scapegoated an innocent man and left him to rot, just so one reporter could potentially advance in the crime news world.

Quick Note

Posted September 15, 2009 by ideaing
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A couple of weeks ago, the New York Times ran a special magazine issue entitled “Saving the World’s Women.”

Overall, the articles I read were okay…not good, not great, but okay.

However, I do have a real beef with the title. “SAVING.” Yes, as usual, let’s place women into this passive role in which we have no agency. Yes, women in all parts of the world are in despair and need SOMEONE ELSE to help them up. NO! WRONG!

The NYT was on the right track and shot itself in the foot, balls, back, head, and everywhere else with this silly, demeaning, and off-point title. At the end of the day, social justice and progress of ANY kind (social, political, financial, moral, whatever) is always achieved WITHIN ONE’S SELF, whether that one is a person, nation, state, or company. Sure, it’s great to have other peoples’ help, but no matter how much help you get, you’re still the one deciding to change.

The NYT, most unfortunately, just tapped into centuries of fairy tales and their Disney updates by proclaiming that white, rich, educated, Western people have the responsibility and sole power to “save” non-white, developing-country women. It’s “The White Man’s Burden” all over again.

P.S. Just because Kristof writes an article with his wife, and just because she’s from China, doesn’t mean that suddenly an article represents a non-Western, non-male POV. Come the fuck on.

There will never be enough time to:

Posted September 13, 2009 by ideaing
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-Make all the delicious recipes in the world, or just those I read
-Listen to all the great music
-Read all the amazing books
-Meet every interesting person

This world sure has a bounty.

I <3 Google's Creepy Invasiveness

Posted September 8, 2009 by ideaing
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$.02 on health care

Posted August 19, 2009 by ideaing
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Last December, I got shooting pains in my abdomen on a Thursday morning, was nauseous, and had blood in my stool.  I am in generally good health, and although I had medical insurance, I hated my general physician, so I didn’t have anyone to contact with a question.  The next day, I decided to go to Urgent Care, because I knew that whatever my issue was, it probably wasn’t that big of a deal, and Urgent Care is cheaper, both for the insurance company and for me.

I drove to Urgent Care about five hours later but had forgotten my medical insurance card.  I went home, but the UC center I had just gone to was now closed for the day.  I decided to wait it out.

A couple hours later, things were worse.  I made a last-minute decision to drive to the only open UC center in the area, about 30 minutes away, again, because I was a bit concerned, and figured the insurance company would appreciate me going to UC instead of ER.

I went to UC and saw the only doctor there relatively quickly.  She asked me some questions, did a couple of tests, ran a tube up my ass and looked into it, and told me that she couldn’t diagnose me but that my symptoms demanded I should go to the ER, which was across the street.

I went to the ER, got through the line quickly, and was immediately put in a bed, even though I really wasn’t that comfortable with it — after all, aren’t there people in way more dire straits than I, especially on a Friday night?  I spent five hours in the ER, mostly just being nervous that my boyfriend was bored and irascible.  About three and a half hours in, a doctor and nurse wheeled me into a room, where the doctor asked me the exact same questions the previous doctor had, despite having all of her notes, ran the same tests, and yes, again ran the exact same kind of tube up my butt.  After doing all this, the doctor decided he had no idea what was wrong with me, gave me some pain medication, and told me to go home and come back to the ER if I kept bleeding.

To sum up:

1. I tried to save money by going to Urgent Care

2. UC didn’t know what was wrong, so UC sent me to the ER

3. ER ran the EXACT SAME TESTS as UC, and took three times as long to do them;

4. After all this, neither UC nor ER was able to diagnose me;

5. Two weeks later, I get bills from both UC and ER for services rendered.  I’ve paid UC but still owe ER, which is still expensive, despite my insurance.

So, all in all, a few things.  I tried to minimize costs, but sadly failed.  I wasted seven hours of my life, and, more importantly, of these doctors’, to no avail.  The total bill came to approximately $4500, although I only have to pay about $700 out of pocket ($150 to UC and $550 to ER).

Resulting questions:

-Why should the exact same procedures cost me $150 at UC and $550 at ER?  (Answer: well, ER has way bigger costs, like the bed, extra admin, subsidizing those who can’t pay, etc., but my point is that I really didn’t NEED any of that, but I didn’t have a choice.)

-If I went to a restaurant and didn’t get the food I ordered, I wouldn’t have to pay.  If I signed up for an LSAT class and didn’t learn anything, I’d get my money back.  So why is it that, in this particular instance, I paid a lot of money to two different (but related) organizations for completely redundant NON-results?  (Again, answer is that of course tests still cost money, as do doctors, and they should all be paid, but in what universe should that actually cost my insurance $4500?)

Health care pricing is seriously messed up.  If $5 buys a dose of AIDS vaccine to send to Africa, it doesn’t make sense that a simple blood test bills out at $75.  If I can walk around just fine, don’t make me pay to get stuck with an IV and sat in a bed, especially when there’s an uninsured kid bleeding from the head waiting in the next room.  Doctors and nurses should be well-compensated, but they should be salaried, not paid on a per-service basis.  Finally, we should really work on eliminating redundancies.  When the UC doctor performs precise tests and sends them across the street, the ER doctor shouldn’t feel compelled to distrust her judgment and run the exact same tests over again.  If something doesn’t work, try a new fucking approach!  This is just common sense!

Also, on a side note, my boyfriend is deathly allergic to bees.  About two years ago, he was playing kickball in Golden Gate Park and forgot an EpiPen — of course he got stung.  He had to drive himself to ER to get it taken care of, and he, too, has insurance.  However, the insurance refused to pay for this service, so now he’s stuck with an $1800 bill.  Retail value of an EpiPen?  About $25!  WTF?

So, we DO need health care reform.  But, for now, instead of prioritizing universal health care, maybe we should demand that the industry actually behave responsibly and efficiently.  It’s just common sense.

Dinner-ish Snack

Posted August 11, 2009 by ideaing
Categories: Food

Hangar One Kaffir Lime Gimlet

Vodka, lots of ice, juice from one lime, a couple pinches of sugar

Bread Salad

On the bottom, half of a day-old loaf of Herb Foccacia, ripped into bits; then five tomatoes, chopped; three cloves garlic, sliced thinly; half a red onion, chopped; one can of anchovies, oil drizzled over the mixture; balsamic vinegar, drizzled in the opposite direction; cheapo Target brand canned parmesan, sprinkled over the top; all broiled on the middle rack for 10 minutes

One can of corn and half a cucumber, chopped, thrown on top